void DeleteContact_Command(object sender, CommandEventArgs e)
{
int contactID = Convert.ToInt32(e.CommandArgument);
ContactDB.UpdateInactive(contactID);
//
// the update causes the page with this control to validate to run and I can't find why ... just redirect
//
//UpdateTables();
Response.Redirect(Request.RawUrl);
// call the main page to redirect ??
// pass in EventHandler like in InvoiceItemsControl.ascx.cs ??
// but need f*****g update code on all sites ffs
}